COMPLETE INCOMPLETE EMOTIONS
Incomplete Communications
The Basics.
Where do they come from?
A high numbness bar and an inability to feel
When scratching under the surface of the relationship that modern culture (the culture that most of us are born in) has with feelings and emotions, it because obviously clear that feelings are considered as bad and negative things. It is not okay to feel either anger, sadness, fear or joy - or unless it is under absolutely exceptional circumstances such as death or birth and it is only accepted for a certain amount of time and intensity.
Because feeling any feelings is consider dangerous, weak, childish, capricious, manipulative and so on, very young we are taught to raise our numbness bar very high so as to not feel. Our high numbness bar is the cause of incomplete communications.
It happens like this: You are having a conversation with one of your parents, siblings, teachers, school friends, cousins, even with a complete stranger and they say something or do something that create a feeling in you. For example, one of your teacher makes a remark about your clothes in front of the whole class. You feel embarrassed which is a mixed emotions of anger, fear and sadness. Because of your high numbness bar that forbids expressing feelings and emotions, you cannot make the boundary necessary to reclaim your integrity. The unexpressed mixed emotions of anger, fear and sadness about this particular situation crystallize in your emotional body as a knot. This knot occupies your emotional but also intellectual, energetic and physical bodies until you complete this particular communication.
This is how quickly and subtly incomplete communications are numerously created in our 5 body.
How do they show up?
As crystallization in your four bodies ...
- Incomplete communications crystallize in your intellectual body as stories that triggers emotions whenever circumstances get even a tiny bit close to the story that we carry. We call that projecting. When the circumstances matches somehow the story that has been crystallized by the incomplete communication, the story-movie starts playing in your life. You become an actor in a predetermined movie. You become a mechanical answer to the stimulus.
- Incomplete communications crystallize in your energetic body as 1) blocks to a natural and efficient flow of energy through you and 2) an overuse of your energy to keep suppressing the emotions that are showing themselves to finally be completed. This would be characterized by a tiredness, chronic fatigue, difficulties to go to sleep, being in hyper-mode, ...
- Incomplete communications crystallize in your physical body as tensions in your muscles, cramps, nerves ending pain, unhealed wounds, lose or gain of weight, in OCD behaviors such as biting your nails, picking your skin, eating your hair, etc...
- Incomplete communications crystallize in your emotional body as incomplete emotions which is explained in more details below (i.e. Mixed Emotions). The completing process found below is called Completing Incomplete Emotions because we use the information and energy of the emotions to go back in time to the precise moment when the incomplete communications happened and complete it then. Your emotions are your gateways to your healing process.
How do they show up?
Crystallized as Mixed Emotions ...
Incomplete emotions show up either in 'pure' form - pure anger, pure sadness, pure fear, pure joy (yes emotional joy is a thing and a lot more common than most people think!) or in 'mixed' form - depression, isolation, despair, embarrassment, guilt, shame, resentment, jealousy, hatred, aggression, hysteria, nervous breakdown, recklessness, hopelessness, helplessness, etc... Find a more extensive list here (this is a topic very much in a research state): http://unmixemotions.mystrikingly.com/
Our emotional literacy being so poor, we have not learn to inner navigate our feelings and emotions in their pure form. As a disempowering mechanism we mix our emotions to destroy our clarity about the situation. Mixing emotions is a very effective disempowerment strategy because it really works. When you feel guilty or jealous, there's nothing much you can do about your emotional state but wait till it goes by and wait in anxiety about when it will be triggered next. Not until you start unmixing the emotions mashup together that you will reclaim your clarity and therefore your power.
From experience, we have notice that when emotions stay mixed, they tend to not heal, as they can never really be completely heard and therefore completed. Therefore, the pure form of anger, sadness, fear and joy are the most effective form of emotion to heal incomplete communications.
Experiments
We've got you covered with a bunch of amazing experiments to try alone or with your Possibility Team!
COMPLETE.04: Lower your Numbness Bar.
COMPLETE.05: Unmixed Your Emotions...
... while completing your Incomplete Emotions.
The offer is then while you are completing your incomplete communication, and feeling the feelings you could not feel back when the communication was cut, unmix your emotions.
COMPLETE.06: Cycle Through All Four Feelings
ongoingly at low intensity.
COMPLETE.07: Practice Completion Loop
as the space holder.
COMPLETE.08: Learn to hold space.
COMPLETE.09: Make time and space for two.
COMPLETE.10: Hold space for Complete Incomplete Emotions in Possibility Team.
COMPLETE.11: Hold space for an evening work-talk.
COMPLETE.12: Hold space for a workshop.
